When we decide to date on curvy dating apps, one of the most difficult things is to write a BBW dating profile. Most of us have trouble describing ourselves in person, let alone in writing. Am I bragging too much? Haven't I bragged enough? Am I interesting enough? How much should I disclose?
These are questions my clients often ask themselves, so I ask them to describe themselves to me. "I like music, gym, movies and eating out," one replied. This is a fairly standard and common answer I've received, even in plus size people's fat dating profiles in the past.
While online communication can be a little different (typing in emoticons, acronyms, words like fleek), in the real world it's not too far from having an emoji. Your online chubby dating profile is just the beginning of the conversation.
Just as in the real world, a very common topic leads to a very common conversation. If you want to attract more high-quality online conversations, you have to start with a few details. Details are what people insist on. The details are where we find common ground.
Have you ever asked someone how their day was and the reply was usually "fine"? There is no room for this conversation to grow, but it comes alive when someone answers some real details about their life.
This concept applies to your online profile and how you communicate with potential online dates. But it's not over. The details will get you a second date, but it all starts with your fat dating profile. Go back to your profile and see what you've written. It may have something to do with your hobbies and how you describe yourself. Start picking apart the details of the hobby. Let's take fitness as an example.
What sports do you play? Let's say you like running. How long have you been doing this? Have you ever run a marathon? Is there a run you're particularly proud of?
Let's explore the differences. The first draft of your BBW dating profile is "I like to stay active". When you enter details, say something like, "I love running." It really helps me clear my mind, just like meditation. Seeing the sunset at the end of my run is always the best part of my day."
The first example only raises the question of a potential suitor. "How do you stay active? The second example raises emotions and a myriad of issues to discuss. Running, sunsets, different trails, meditation, and scenic perspectives are just some of the topics you can discuss while reading the second example.
Let's move on to another general topic. Music. It's a very personal topic, but people treat it as something that can be generalized. What kind of music do you like? What was the last concert you went to? What song is playing in your car? If you're traveling in a car with your partner, does music sound important to you? If so, you cannot generalize it. You want to find common ground with a potential partner on music, so be specific.
Keep asking yourself questions about the topic. What is important to you? What exactly did you do on this topic? Are you looking for someone you can share with? If you know, it depends on the details. When you kill all the answers in your life, you start building meaningful curvy dating relationships with chubby people online and offline.